Couples Therapy in Toronto, Richmond Hill & Vaughan

Rebuilding Connection When It Feels Like You’re Drifting Apart

You love each other… but it still feels like something’s missing.

Maybe conversations turn into conflicts. Or you feel like roommates instead of partners. Maybe you’ve lost that sense of safety and closeness you once shared, and now you’re just trying to avoid the next argument.

For many couples, the disconnection didn’t happen overnight. And neither will the healing.

But it can happen—when you understand what’s really going on beneath the surface.

That’s where Emotionally Focused Couples Therapy begins.

What is Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT) For Couples?

EFT is a research-backed, evidence-based approach to couples therapy that focuses on strengthening emotional bondsby helping partners identify and express their deeper needs, fears, and longings.

Unlike surface-level strategies or communication tips, EFT helps couples understand the emotional patterns that fuel conflict and distance—and then guides them to create new, more secure ways of relating.

Developed by Dr. Sue Johnson, EFT is one of the most empirically supported methods of couples therapy available today, with success rates as high as 70–75% in reducing relationship distress.

This isn’t about who’s “right” or “wrong.” It’s about learning how to reconnect, even in the moments when you feel furthest apart.

The problem isn’t that you don’t care. It’s that you don’t know how—or don’t  feel safe enough—to show it.

Why This Matters: You’re Not Fighting About the Dishes

Underneath the criticism, the silence, or the same old argument… there’s something deeper.

• • One partner feels abandoned or unheard
  • The other feels like they can never get it right
  • You both end up alone in the same room

EFT helps you make sense of these patterns—not just fix them temporarily.

By exploring how you each experience hurt, fear, and longing, couples therapy helps you move from blame and distance to empathy and connection.

How Couples Therapy Works with EFT

In Emotionally Focused Couples Therapy, you and your partner will work with a trained therapist to:

• • Identify the negative cycle you keep getting stuck in (like withdrawal/pursuit)
  • Understand the raw emotions underneath the arguments—often fear, hurt, or shame
  • Learn new ways to reach out and respond, so both partners feel safe and seen
  • Rebuild a secure bond, based on emotional responsiveness

This process is not about assigning blame—it’s about creating a safe space to be real with each other. Over time, most couples find that the very things that used to trigger conflict now become moments of deeper closeness.

You’re not just resolving fights. You’re changing how you fight—together.

It’s not that you’re broken. You’re just stuck in a pattern. And patterns can change.

What Makes EFT Different Than Other Couples Therapy

While many forms of couples therapy focus on surface behaviors, Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT) goes deeper—helping you transform the emotional patterns that drive disconnection.

EFT helps you move from reactivity to responsiveness—so your relationship becomes a source of strength again.

Who Is Couples Therapy For?

Couples therapy is ideal for you if:

• • You feel disconnected, distant, or emotionally shut down
  • You argue about the same things over and over again
  • One or both of you avoids difficult conversations
  • You’ve been through a betrayal or rupture
  • You love your partner but don’t know how to reach them anymore

Whether you’ve been together for two years or twenty, it’s never too late to reconnect.

It’s not about fixing your partner. It’s about learning how to find each other again.

What To Expect From Couples Therapy

At Inner Summits, couples counselling is about helping you and your partner reconnect, resolve conflict, and build a stronger relationship. Here’s what you can expect:

• • 60-minute or 90-minute sessions (in-person or virtual)
  • A structured process that adapts to your pace
  • Respectful, non-blaming approach
  • Support for both partners equally
  • Guidance on reconnecting emotionally, not just behaviorally

We offer sessions from our offices in Toronto, Richmond Hill, and Vaughan, as well as virtually across Ontario.

How Couples Therapy Can Help

Couples therapy can help you:

• • Enhance Communication: Learn to express your needs, feelings, and frustrations in a constructive way.
  • Resolve Conflicts: Work through disagreements without damaging your relationship or creating distance.
  • Rebuild Trust: If your relationship has experienced a breach of trust, therapy can help you heal and rebuild the bond.
  • Prevent Future Ruptures: Therapy helps you build a stronger foundation to navigate future challenges together.
  • Deepen Connection: Strengthen emotional intimacy and rediscover the closeness that brought you together.

Couples therapy doesn’t just help you solve problems—it helps you find your way back to each other, even when things feel uncertain.

We were stuck in the same fight for years. EFT helped us see what was really underneath—and how to reach for each other again.

Our Team

At Inner Summits, our therapists are specially trained in Emotionally Focused Therapy for couples. We approach your relationship with compassion, insight, and expertise—creating a space where both partners feel heard and supported.

We work with couples at every stage: from pre-marital support to relationship repair after betrayal, to long-term partnerships facing new challenges.

Below are just a few of our friendly faces, and you can learn more about us on Our Team page.

You don’t have to navigate this alone. We’ll walk the path with you.

Our Therapy Locations: Toronto, Vaughan & Richmond Hill 

We offer couples therapy at our Toronto, Vaughan and Richmond Hill locations, as well as anywhere across Ontario virtually. Whether you prefer in-person sessions or the convenience of virtual therapy, we’re here to support you and your partner on your journey toward a stronger, more fulfilling relationship.

The Outcome: A Stronger, More Secure Bond

After working through EFT, many couples describe:

• • More open and honest communication
  • Less conflict—and quicker repair when conflict happens
  • A renewed sense of closeness and intimacy
  • Feeling safe to be vulnerable again
  • A deeper appreciation for one another

This is more than communication skills. It’s about feeling like a team again.

FAQs 

How do I know if couples therapy is right for us?

Couples counselling can benefit relationships at any stage. Whether you’re struggling with conflict, communication, or just looking to strengthen your bond, therapy provides a neutral space for both partners to work together toward a healthier relationship.

What happens during couples therapy?

During couples therapy sessions, your therapist will guide you and your partner in discussing your concerns, working through conflicts, and improving communication. We’ll provide tools and strategies to help you both understand each other’s perspectives and rebuild emotional intimacy.

Do both partners need to attend every session?

While most sessions involve both partners, individual sessions may sometimes be recommended to help each partner explore personal issues that may be affecting the relationship. Your therapist will recommend the best approach based on your specific situation.

How long does couples therapy take?

It varies. Some couples feel major shifts in 8–12 sessions; others work longer. EFT is structured but flexible, and your therapist will guide the pace.

Can we still benefit if only one of us is open to therapy?

We recommend both partners attend, but if one is hesitant, we can explore individual support and revisit couples work later.

Is it too late if we’re already talking about separation?

Not at all. Many couples come in at a crisis point. Therapy can help you slow down, understand what’s happening, and decide what’s truly right—for both of you.

Ready to Strengthen Your Relationship?

You don’t have to fix everything before you ask for help.

You don’t even need to have the words yet.

You just need to want something more—and be willing to take the first step.

Let’s help you find your way back to each other.

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